“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.” – Confucius
I believe that we do the best we can. If all that one can manage in a day is simply to breathe and be, then that day was spent at the best of their ability. Not a day is wasted, we do our best.
This philosophy is the only way in which I can accept the world. This belief allows me to forgive my mother after years of fighting and distance, to embrace my friends for who they are, and enables me to go forth in my life without guilt. My mantra does not lower my expectations but allows me to understand the interlocking bond between individualism and society . One might argue that this may handicap me from fully acknowledging things like war and hate. Contrasting that belief, it is this philosophy that recognizes the dark side of humanity rather than denying it. Our experiences, culture, language and education all influence our ideas on what is best- creating a world full of very diverse versions of the concept.
Historic figures legendary for executing their passions through violence ; Adolf Hitler, Maximilien Robespierre and Osama bin Laden, who’s imprint on humanity is dark and spiteful all did the best they could. Internally each of them were drawn to a course of action influenced by their anger and hate, their choices were established regarding the point that fate, or god, had brought them and their consciences.
There is also the perspective of doing the best we can for ourselves versus doing the best we can for others. I believe there must be a balance. Revisiting the aforementioned topic of my mother, I must understand that the choices in which she made were not intentionally made to hurt me. Her materialism often dominates her compassion, though that is the person that she is. No matter how skewed I find her ideals on family, I know that especially in the case of mothers, they do the best they can.
Finally, I find myself motivated by this belief, constantly pushing myself to expand my limits and defy what I once thought was impossible. Everyday I demand more of myself, to allow myself to break my introverted patterns and establish emotional connections with the world around me. I see myself beginning to embrace forgiveness and become a more empathetic woman. A woman of grace and poise but also fire and passion. This is the best that I can do.